In every situation in life we would like to have a perfect explanation, a reason, a simple logical answer. We would also like to stand on the high ground and say we were right and “they” were wrong. It is not like that; yet we want people to take sides and make everything black and white. Take, for instance, divorces. In the heat of the problems there comes a place where neither party can continue as is. But what follows is problematic. The rules are that somebody has to be blamed, someone has to be the guilty party. However, the truth is that there are no blameless persons in the issue; some just handled them poorly and broke covenant. Then comes the court battles, the grab for property and money, the fight over child custody, and the campaign for allies to hate the other person. The collateral damage takes on huge proportions. It is not just the couple separating; it is the kids, the grandparents, the friends, and the business associates. All these are collateral damage and all receiving second hand offenses with little or insufficient facts, but true to their allegiance, they blindly hate, separate, accuse, and spread the one sided, insufficient story.
The strange thing is that down the road, the couple may come to a civilized, workable arrangement, but the second hand offenses remain. They remain because the couple does not go fix what they broke or tell the truth of their part in the sad affair.
Life is messy. Not every change is well received. Companies change leaders, schools change administrators, teachers, and churches change vision and direction. It does not mean that the administrator who left is bad or the teacher who goes is a poor educator. Companies change CEO’s, corporate officers, and management from time to time to keep the company viable. Sometimes in churches, there are changes in staff and leadership. All that is for the long term benefit of the church. Churches have to keep current with the current move of God and that is not easy.
As we are going through changes that are necessary for the welfare of the church long term, it is not easy. We have friends and loved ones who have chosen to move on and we have new folks who are joining our vision. It does not make those who are moving on bad people, it is just where things are at the moment. We are not bad people for staying and working on the change. The challenge lies before us.
When friendships are tested and each has to go a direction that causes some separation, it does not mean that friendships should not be maintained. It will mean that the paths will not cross as frequently, but they will cross from time to time.
I look forward to the process of growing and following the current move of God for us. This is a new day: Onward and Upward!
– Pastor Bill